Making Communion Meaningful for Children

Making Communion Meaningful for Children


This article is an excerpt from the blog Bread not Stones by Rebecca Kirkpatrick, a pastor in the Presbyterian Church (USA) for ten years, serving a vibrant congregation in South Bend, Indiana. 


In the second season of the TV drama Mad Men, young and rising advertising copywriter Peggy Olson lands the Popsicle account by comparing a mother’s act of taking a twin pop from the freezer, breaking it in two and giving it to her children to the ritual of sharing in the Sacrament of Communion. Sharing a Popsicle, she tells the executives, is not just something that you do in the summer heat, but a ritual that is enacted all year around. No matter if it came from the freezer or from the ice cream truck, each time you: take it, break it, share it, love it.

Communion is unique in that it is not just a story that we tell or a service that we attend, but a fully sensory experience that we have together as a community. Clearly these are the kinds of experiences that can be especially meaningful to children.

How can we make the Sacrament of Communion a memorable and meaningful ritual for children as they grow in their faith and in their understanding of their Christian identity? Here are some ways.

1. Allow your child to receive Communion. 

I work with parents who remember not being allowed to take Communion as a child, and who wonder if their child is old enough to participate in the sacrament. Often the standard for when a child is “old enough” is held to be the ability to understand the meaning of the sacrament. I am 36, and I continue to work on understanding what it means.

Children come to understand the meaning of the sacrament best by actually participating in it. That being said, while there is no definitive age at which a child should start taking Communion, whenever a child does start we should make it a special occasion and actively talk about it ahead of time.

2. Read feeding stories from the Bible with children.

Whether it is the story of the Last Super or the story of Jesus’ walk to Emmaus after the resurrection, the gospels provide a number of stories of Jesus sitting at table with his closest friends. From there one can branch out to other biblical feeding stories, such as the story of God feeding the Israelites with manna in the wilderness or the miracle of the feeding of the 5,000.

Help children understand that Jesus ate with his disciples, friends and even strangers all the time. It is also helpful to connect our faith practices to stories from the Old Testament. The stories of the unleavened bread at Passover, Abraham entertaining angels outside his tent, or Ruth gathering grain to feed her family can be linked to Communion for children. One of the best children’s resources for this purpose (besides the Bible itself) is the book God Speaks to Us in Feeding Stories.

3. Talk with your children during Communion, just as you would if you were taking them to their first baseball game.You wouldn’t make a child sit through an entire sporting event without helping them understand who is doing what when and why. Point out to them what is happening, who is saying what words and what they mean, what elements/objects are on the Communion table, how the pastor breaks the bread and pours the cup. Explain who is serving the congregation, whether is it pastors, elders or deacons.

Take it, break it, share it, love it.

What I like most about Peggy Olson’s comparison between sharing a twin pop and sharing Communion is the joy that it invokes. Too often Communion is treated as a somber event, but in truth it is the joyful feast of the people of God. And nothing is more joyful than sharing Communion with a child.

May our children remember breaking and sharing in the bread and cup with as much fondness as they remember the cold, sticky stains of the first grape popsicle of the summer.



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