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Home/Lent/This Lent, Add Instead of Subtract

This Lent, Add Instead of Subtract

“Whatever you choose – adding or subtracting – the point is to do something that feeds your soul without draining your energy or making you resent the time. Be realistic, keep it simple and enjoy!”

A Conversation
Many years ago I explained to my rector that I didn’t like giving up something for Lent. “I don’t quite see the connection,” I said. “What does giving up chocolate have to do with my spiritual life?” Wise man that he was, and still is, he replied, “There may not be a connection for you. Why don’t you take on something instead?”

And so I did, and so I still do. And it works for me. Maybe it will for you too. If your church makes recommendations to members for Lenten disciples you might consider including some of the ones below.

Read as a Lenten Discipline
This could be on your own, with a family member, in a group or on a social site like Goodreads. I’ve done this a number of years and my books have ranged from spiritual and religious to fiction. Some of my favorites have been:

  • Reconciliation: Preparing for Confession in the Episcopal Church by Martin Smith
  • Wisdom Distilled from the Daily by Joan Chittister
  • Sabbath: Finding Rest, Renewal and Delight in Our Busy Lives by Wayne Mueller
  • The Return of Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming by Henri Nouwen

In fiction, I’ve just finished All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr, and I think it would be a wonderful Lenten book.

Feed the artist in you
Yes, you have one in there! If you’re like me, you just need to give yourself permission to not be Picasso or Jane Austen and then you’ll be fine! Write. Try journaling; write some memoir or stories from your life; start a blog even if it is only for you. Sign up for Tumblr and read the blogs there and start your own. My husband and daughter and I did this – just the 3 of us – for Advent and it was wonderful. We shared photos around daily themes for each day of Advent.

Paint. I recommend Roger Hutchison’s “The Painting Table.” Take photographs and share them with friends and family. Garden – indoors or out depending on where you live.

Build Relationships  
Commit to dinner one or more times a week with family or friends. Keep it simple. It can be fast food, take out, pot luck… the point is time together. Invite someone you don’t see often to lunch – maybe a different friend each week. This could also be someone you’d like to know better. Write a card or call someone each week. Volunteer. Visit at local retirement homes; drive folks to doctor’s appointments or to the grocery store.

Care for yourself
There are many ways to deepen spirituality by caring for your body, mind, and soul. Commit to an exercise regimen – if this is new for you, keep it simple and easy.  Take a spiritual retreat during Lent. It can be ½ day, a day or even a full weekend. Find a spiritual director and schedule an appointment.  Get out of the office during the day – walk around the block, go out for lunch, sit in the park.  Sleep.

Gretchen Ziegenhals has a wonderful article on finding sanctuary as a means to renew our leadership.  Worship. This can be hard for those who are employed by the church or have volunteer positions that make Sundays very busy. Perhaps you can attend a morning or evening service at another church near you where you can sit quietly and worship.

Whatever you choose – adding or subtracting – the point is to do something that feeds your soul without draining your energy or making you resent the time. Be realistic, keep it simple and enjoy!

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  • Carolyn Moomaw Chilton

    Carolyn Moomaw Chilton is a leadership development coach with clergy, clergy spouses and lay employees, as well as a spiritual director. She also works as a consultant with churches and vestries in the areas of formation, development and evangelism. She can be reached at [email protected].

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February 16, 2015 By Carolyn Moomaw Chilton

Filed Under: Lent Tagged With: faith practices, God, Jesus, Lent, Lenten discipline, spiritual pr

About Carolyn Moomaw Chilton

Carolyn Moomaw Chilton is a leadership development coach with clergy, clergy spouses and lay employees, as well as a spiritual director. She also works as a consultant with churches and vestries in the areas of formation, development and evangelism. She can be reached at [email protected].

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