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Home/Children & Family/Encouraging Spiritual Growth in Children: An age-by-age guide for teachers

Encouraging Spiritual Growth in Children: An age-by-age guide for teachers

“A healthy self-concept lays a foundation for a growing ability to be intimate with others and with God.”

 

Spiritual Growth in Children

Christian education programs are not just for teaching about the Bible, but also for helping others grow spiritually in age appropriate ways. Sometimes it means how we provide the proper environment, sometimes it’s how we communicate our own love of God. Most importantly, teachers need to understand what is developmentally appropriate for the particular age group they are called to minister with.

Infants (1 year and younger)

Be and provide loving caregivers and an environment of trust. Adults are the transitional objects for God as they experience the world. Consistency of who is providing care in your nursery or child care is essential.

Mutuality is the give and take between an infant and an adult which leads to trust. Healthy relationships lead to the basic strength of hope.

Pre-images of faith are nurtured in the “eyes that recognize and the face that blesses” of the parents and significant others who surround the child.

Provide objects and toys to manipulate that show acceptance and patience in the child’s experimentation with them.

Provide experiences that contribute to developing positive qualities.

Early Childhood (2-7 years)

Encourage their questions and curiosities about God and the world. This helps develop a sense of autonomy.

A healthy environment for toddlers provides room for physical movement and choice combined with affirmation and reassuring control. Provide love balanced with consistent discipline (such as wise use of distraction). A healthy self-concept lays a foundation for a growing ability to be intimate with others and with God.

Participation in a community of faith that encourages their presence and leadership contributes to their growing understanding of themselves in relationship to God. Unrealistic demands for a child’s behavior may cause the child to later reject God or to become legalistic in religious practices.

Parents’ religious observances of Christmas, Easter, grace at meals and daily devotions greatly influence the child.

Read and tell stories, especially those with heroes and literal stories of family and self. Include stories about nature, relationships, God and biblical characters with pictures and objects. Be alert to evidence that a child may be focused on something that is causing them fear in the story; provide the comfort needed in response.

Encourage and provide opportunities for dramatic play.

Communicate that although a behavior is unacceptable, the child is accepted and loved.

Older Childhood (7-12 years)

Treat every child equally.

Discover each child’s gifts, affirm them, build their self-esteem.

Include children as much as possible in family life activities.

Provide opportunities for expressing faith through mission and service projects to others.

 

Many of these ideas can be found in Will Our Children Have Faith? revised edition by John Westerhoff III (Morehouse Publishing, 2000). 

 


Sharon Ely Pearson is an editor and the Christian Formation Specialist for Church Publishing Incorporated (CPI). She is the author/editor of several books, most recently The Episcopal Christian Educator’s Handbook and Signed, Sealed, Delivered: Theologies of Confirmation for the 21st Century. When not traveling for work or pleasure, she enjoys tossing tennis balls to her year old black lab, Chobe.

 

 

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  • Sharon Ely Pearson

    Sharon Ely Pearson recently retired as Editor & Christian Formation Specialist with Church Publishing Incorporated (CPI) with 35+ years of experience in Christian formation on the local, judicatory, and church-wide level. Known for her knowledge of the variety of published curricula across the Church, she has also had her hand in the birthing of numerous books, including the best-seller, Call on Me: A Prayer Book for Young People and the 6-book series of Faithful Celebrations: Making Time for God. A graduate of Virginia Theological Seminary (2003) and a lifelong Episcopalian, she lives in Norwalk, Connecticut with her husband John, a 17.5 lb. cat named Shadow, and Chobe, a 7-year-old, tennis-ball-fetching, rescue black lab. They have two adult children (both teachers) and a 5-year-old granddaughter who is a budding environmental activist. Follow her at www.rowsofsharon.com.

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August 5, 2011 By Sharon Ely Pearson

Filed Under: Children & Family Tagged With: children's ministry, Christian formation, family ministry, parents, spirituality, teacher training

About Sharon Ely Pearson

Sharon Ely Pearson recently retired as Editor & Christian Formation Specialist with Church Publishing Incorporated (CPI) with 35+ years of experience in Christian formation on the local, judicatory, and church-wide level. Known for her knowledge of the variety of published curricula across the Church, she has also had her hand in the birthing of numerous books, including the best-seller, Call on Me: A Prayer Book for Young People and the 6-book series of Faithful Celebrations: Making Time for God. A graduate of Virginia Theological Seminary (2003) and a lifelong Episcopalian, she lives in Norwalk, Connecticut with her husband John, a 17.5 lb. cat named Shadow, and Chobe, a 7-year-old, tennis-ball-fetching, rescue black lab. They have two adult children (both teachers) and a 5-year-old granddaughter who is a budding environmental activist. Follow her at www.rowsofsharon.com.

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  1. Marsha Haase Gray

    August 5, 2011 at 12:06 pm

    Only if we show them the way. …..parents who make the decision to “let them choose for themselves” still need to expose and educate them in the Word. Only then, as adults can they “choose” their path.

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